Marry the Money

A friend of mine, who has three kids the same age as mine and a husband who works similiar hours, recently said to me that we should be happy that we've married men who earn enough to grant us the freedom to create careers we want - also badly paying ones. I understand her viewpoint in principle, but... A long list of buts: What if something goes wrong in our relationship? What if one doesnt feel equally valued? What if one needs to ask for money each month? What about pensions? What about always being the one who has to be flexible when kids are ill, there are errands to run, etc? I guess I should just accept reality as it currently is, and seen postively, make the best out of it. But I cant. I dont feel comfortable with such a hugely imbalanced constellation. Can one be truly happy with such inequality within the household? At either end of the scale?